Stop Looking at Others
When you choose to step into the social media realm, you will face a common struggle that almost everyone deals with: comparison. It’s so easy, right? Each profile tells you how many followers you have and as you look at others to connect with and engage with, you see how many followers they have. Every post, you’re wondering, “did I get as many ‘likes’ on this as I should?”
It’s easy to compare on social media, but if you want to be successful with it, you need to be courageous. Don’t let comparison turn to fear, because that will paralyze your efforts on social media. We all got started somewhere – even the big guys!
Here’s why comparison is so dangerous to meeting big goals:
Comparison Distracts
When we’re focused on other people and their perceived success, we’re not focusing on our own accomplishments. Notice that: comparison is deliberately focusing on someone else instead of yourself. If you’re going after a big goal in life, that doesn’t logically make sense. Why would we choose to shift our focus? If your goal is truly that big, you need your energy focused on you, and your journey.
Comparison is a Slippery Slope
It’s very difficult in our world to not judge. So, as we look at other people and compare, the odds of that turning into judgment in some way or another are really high. The truth is that we’re all fighting our own battles and facing our own big goals, and we can learn a lot from each other. So, when we allow ourselves to compare we are essentially allowing ourselves to judge.
Comparison Distorts
The truth is that comparison distorts the reality of where you are at in your journey. Let’s face it, if you’re new on a social media platform or just growing your business, you should NOT compare your profile to someone who has been building a presence for ten years. You can aspire for that, but you shouldn’t judge.
Comparison is Easy
One big thing to realize is that it is SO easy to compare yourself to others in our world. Magazine covers are constantly shouting to us what we should be. Social media posts are giving us a constant benchmark of what our peers are up to. It’s hard not to compare. Just knowing that makes it easier to work through.
So what do we do with these feelings of comparison?
I think it’s pretty safe to say we all don’t want to compare ourselves with others, but what do we do instead? Here are a few things I recommend doing to shift your focus:
- Remember that comparison creeps in all the time. Give yourself grace for this fact, rather than condemn yourself.
- Recognize it for what it is. When you see it happening in your mind notice it so that you can move beyond it.
- Recognize and celebrate the accomplishments of others.
- Rewire your limiting beliefs into NEW BELIEFS. Tell yourself truths about your accomplishments so far to get you to this point.